Because….Prosperity Is Multidimensional…
[Second post in my series of sharing with you some profound lessons learned by our house disaster]
If you've been a subscriber of mine for any period of time, you know that I rank List Building as one of the most important assets you have for your online (and offline) business.
But as one of my valued subscribers, you also know quite a bit more about me too.
You've likely watched our baby girls grow into young ladies, delighted in their online endeavors, watched as my husband Greg and I have reach milestones with our own business and personal life, and followed our motorhome travels and speaking appearances as we have traversed the United States.
In short - you are part of our online family!
And I've always taken great pride in the fact that a new subscriber is not just another number to add to the notch on our belt. In fact, I am so passionate about how you treat your list (that most important asset, as I call it) that I even wrote an entire mini course called "The Care and Feeding Of Your Opt In List" and it's still one of my best sellers to this day.
But the message here goes deeper here…
You see - it's not really all that important what I had for breakfast or who ticked me off on my last trip to Wal-Mart! (Although that usually does make for a pretty funny story
What's important is YOU! You are building an online business and you are looking for ways to reach your dreams. Me reaching my dreams doesn't do you one bit of good and in many cases, could even serve to frustrate you more - doesn't it?
The point here is that it's a two way street - to be a valued member of any family, you have to contribute more than you take from the relationship. You have to say "how is your day going" and be ready to actually care about the reply. Building rapport with your list is not about me, me, me…
If you share a story, there needs to be a moral or a "take away" that the listener will have left the encounter with something of value - a nugget or a profound message that will elevate them in some fashion and allow them to be one step closer to their own dreams and aspirations.
For nearly 5 years, most of the "sharing" we've done with our own subscribers has been about joy and triumph - bringing you exciting news about something wonderful that's happened in our lives and then drawing a parallel as to how our experience can in turn benefit YOU.
One notable exception was when I shared the news of our house being flooded and the trials and tribulations to come. It was, in essence the first time that I reached out and asked for help, patience and understanding…
And do you know what?
Our online family was there for us!
That's right - reciprocity in it's finest. And even though I was in unfamiliar territory (delivering bad news) I discovered how the two way street balances itself naturally.
While I have maintained a "how can I help you" slant to everything I've ever done online, when I needed help - you were there for me around every turn!
People came out of the woodwork and offered assistance on every level from practical advice, to well wishes, prayers and more! I had people offering to help me pack, move, and even creating inspirational audios to get me through the ordeal.
And so I ask you this…
If you had a similar situation - have you built a rapport with your list such that they care? Would your list respond to a crisis of yours in the same fashion that mine did? Or do you simply treat your subscribers as another faceless number in your autoresponder?
Of course, five years ago I never sat down and said "I'm going to be nice to people for the next 5 years, so that when I have a catastrophe they will be willing to help me…" of course not - that's silly.
(About as "silly" (criminal!) as saying 'I'm going to add you to my list so I can sell you something everyday and expect that you'll respect me in the morning!')
But what I did say to myself way back when, is that my list, my subscribers, my customers… they are all PEOPLE - with real life struggles, daily challenges and dreams. And my obligation as a viable marketer online is to create a business the supports and uplifts each and everyone I come into contact with.
THAT is the foundation I built and the one upon which my brand and reputation has flourished. And if you take heed to what I am sharing today - your business and brand will flourish too if you go forth and keep these simple concepts in mind.
[In my next post in this series, I will tell you how Tim, Jay, Lou Anne and Andy helped me through our house crisis and what I taught them in return...]
But for now, please check out my report on Building Rapport With Your List if you feel you need more inspiration and practical instruction than I've outlined here, and most important:
PLEASE DO SHARE YOUR COMMENTS BELOW and help others along the way today…
(and never forget… there is a real person on the other side of that computer screen facing real challenges, trial and tribulations just like you - keep that in your mind's eye and you'll go far!)
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Ian B
May 16th, 2010 at 10:18 am
Absolutely Awesome Stephanie, I look forward to the next instalments..
Keep up the good work
Ian
Stephanie
May 16th, 2010 at 10:44 am
Thank you Ian - yes, lots more to come - stay tuned… Steph
Jason Parker
May 16th, 2010 at 1:08 pm
Cool post Stephanie. I enjoyed reading your insights into the way you market to your list on a personal level.
Evelyn
May 17th, 2010 at 6:13 am
Stephanie,
Yes, the care and feeding of a list begins with looking at them as individuals with needs and interests and stuff going on in their lives rather than as a cash pump. Good stuff.
surendra
May 26th, 2010 at 8:43 am
inspiration first start from "this"
Adrienne Lee
May 26th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Excellent message Stephanie. Watching you these last few years has been a real inspiration. You have helped me in so many ways you don't even know!! I remember you thought of my first website url name with me.. you were so creative always!
Anyway I now have a list and I am thrilled! I totally agree with your "Care and Feeding" strategies. In fact I am co-hosting my own giveaway!
I would be honored if you would join us!
http://electronicdreamz.com/June/go/21/jv
Thanks for your continued giving and caring,
Best to you,
Adrienne Lee
Julie Fletcher
May 26th, 2010 at 10:16 am
Hi Stephanie
I think that sometimes a lot of marketers forget that they are sending their emails to 'real people' with 'real problems' and that there is more to them than just their credit card.
I try to remember this when I am mailing my own list and send a good mix of free stuff, tips and even a survey, not just promotions.
Thanks
Julie
Paul Teague
May 26th, 2010 at 11:41 am
Hi Stephanie, this is a really interesting and useful post, thanks for writing it.
I think that so much attention is placed on building and growing lists, but not enough on nurturing relationships and developing rapport.
I look forward to reading your future posts.
Best wishes, Paul
E.G. Sebastian
May 26th, 2010 at 12:09 pm
I have a rather large list - in fact, I have several lists, segmented based on their interests. My challenge is keeping in touch regularly with my subscribers - I know, I know, I'm a bad boy… - but business and other passions get in the way [such as social media and blogging, for example - though, those who sign up for blog post updates,they do get a "piece of me" several times a week]]
I promise I'll do better, though.
Thanks for the reminder and the tips!
Anthony Murphy
May 27th, 2010 at 3:26 pm
Its reassuring to read about people who genuinely care about the people they come into contact with. I look forward to your next post.
Thanks Stephanie
Peter Davies
May 28th, 2010 at 12:24 pm
Your are really spot on. This is one issue that is not lost on me - with the focus of building lists, products, netwowrking etc we often forget about the real people that are the recipients of our emails.
I have already cut down my email ad swaps to 3 per week with the intention of taking it down to one per week once my list has passed the 5k mark - then concentrate on looking after my own subs.
I have blogged before that I believe too much ad swapping just dilutes your list as many of your readers will find themselves on too many lists thus ruining the effectiveness of your own list, When I optin in to other marketers lists, all I see are offers from other marketers - there has to be a better way than this.
Clearly adding value to the market place like you do and giving plenty away up front is the best way one can suceed in this business.
Regards
Pete
Sally
June 4th, 2010 at 3:16 pm
Stephanie, I have what you would call a cold list, big(ish) but unresponsive right now and your post really helped me understand the steps I need to take to fix this problem.
Less me me me and more you you you!
The term two way street stuck in my mind, so shall try to remember that in future.
Sally